Monday, March 24, 2014

Treat Others the Way You Are Treated

I've been updating a lot recently, huh? Even though I did just as much in the past it feels like recently I've been posting nonstop :0

Anyways, the idea of the post is kind of self explanatory. I know it's a bit backwards from the typical phrase, but I think it works both ways. Even though I aspire to be kind, in reality I'm too immature sometimes to be like that. Why? Because I believe in relatiating when I feel wronged. I do believe in karma, but sometimes I'm the one who does it back. 

One example is something that occurred last semester. I believe I was in the middle of studying or something when a friend messaged me to help her out with some of the work she missed because she was out of town. By the end of the night, I probably spent 2-3 hours helping her and grabbing dinner (even though I had already eaten, but she just got takeout anyways). 

I think about a week or so later, we had homework to submit online. I had done the homework, but I asked her to pull hers up so I can double check my answers. The way the system works is that there are unlimited tries, but you'd have to start all over again once you submit it. She had already submitted hers, so I wanted to see if my answers were correct so I didn't have to redo everything. Her response? "No, just do it on your own. I have a lot of work and studying to do."

What, seriously? It takes two minutes to pull it up and you're too busy? After I spent hours helping too. But in her defense, it's not like I was forced to help her or something, so lesson learned. 

The retaliation? It came weeks after when she asked me to send her an assignment. My response? "Just do it by yourself." And while I did feel mean because it was in my capacity to help her, I didn't think it was being fair to myself. 

1 comment:

  1. Ughhhh! I hate when that happens. Like when you help someone or you are nice to someone and then they just take it for granted. I always try to be my nicest and when they are not being nice back, I just l tell myself that's it's the last time I will be nice to that person.

    You probably felt guilty, but I would have done the exact same thing! They shouldn't expect any help if they are not willing to help others.